10 Lessons I Learned Through Betrayal

1. People (self included) are generally well-intentioned but weak and will choose the path of least resistance, even if their conscience twinges a bit.

2. Once authority is lost, whether based on fact or not, it is nigh to impossible to regain it.

3. Friendship comes in varying shapes and sizes and one needs to learn to accept what people can give, not demand what they can’t.

4. Loyalty does not consist of agreeing with me throughout a crisis, but in loving me faithfully throughout a crisis, which will show in your behaviour.

5. Your behaviour is what affects my life, not the words you speak. If your words are contradicted by your behaviour, I have no choice but to believe the behaviour.

6. Gossip travels much faster than fact and is sometimes impervious to correction.

7. Saying/doing nothing in a situation which requires words or actions can actually be more harmful than any words or actions you may have been afraid would be harmful.

8. Forgiveness is necessary not just because it is the right thing to do, but for my own sake; the burden of bitterness is too heavy to bear and will make me ill.

9. Those who saw you at your worst and still accepted you are worthy of your trust.

10. There is always a new beginning, even after you have lost everything your life had been built upon. But it takes courage to believe that and to take steps toward it. Cut yourself emotional slack, yes; but do take those baby steps.